Oh for the Garden of Eden…again!!!

Most of us have watched Jurassic Park or a film like that , portrayed through someone’s imagination and where we are whisked into a far away , hundreds of years ago land where animals like the dinosaur  still roam around and so on. You catch my drift.

By the way, I have been reading up about writing and publishing and I am learning the right way and the wrong way of writing. I am not sure I should really be saying ‘you catch my drift’. I will say it this time, so you can know that I am not a robot but a real human. I am sure you catch my drift this time.

Anyway who made the rules? Rules are sometimes made to be broken. Ooops did Ijust say that?  Be careful which rules you break. If for instance, you break a traffic rule, it may be the difference between life and death. Having said that many successful people broke rules. Not all rules were made for the right reasons. Many times rules are made in order to manipulate people, animals and things.

Come with me on a journey exploring the Garden of Eden and a glimpse into how life must have been back then. (You know you don’t really believe the big bang theory, it is just a good comedy).Almighty had put everything a human being  would need there even before man was created. Imagine that most people have bought all their baby needs before they bring the baby home.The place was beautiful, with the natural order . I am not sure natural order here means everything was peaceful and serene all the time. After all  the natural order is that some animals eat some other animals in order to survive.

The place was beautiful, with things in order..the natural order. I am not sure natural order here means everything was peaceful and serene all the time. After all , the natural order is that some animals eat some other animals in order to survive.

Almighty had said to Adam, that he should eat all the different herbs and fruits created and have dominion over everything else. He did not actually say Adam could eat meat but I guess you can interpret ‘have dominion over’ anyway you want. ( are we all supposed to be vegetarian? I guess Almighty has always been great on free will). Whatever we say Adam and Eve were healthy not only because they ate all natural stuff (probably raw) as prescribed by Almighty but because they exercised, did not stress about anything and slept well. There were no distractions. They were content with what they had.

You can contrast this with the lives of many people, where they don’t eat the right things, are distracted, stressed out and therefore unhealthy.

Adam had to work because Almighty set him to work tending the Garden. (He did not just laze around sunbathing as many like to think he did.) I am guessing  Adam was in maintenance. Ensuring things functioned as they were meant to. He must have also done some harvesting and re-planting, in fact, I am sure he did all manner of things that were never even included in his original job description. All this he did without murmuring or complaining.

This again is not a wonder he was healthy. He lived a complaint, blame-free life. All those things including gossip don’t promote anyone at work.It all just brings stress.

He must never have been bored. Adam would have had to be dynamic to do so many different things.  (Please note I said dynamic, not multi-tasking. The psychologists now know that no one can multitask successfully. You can’t do two things at exactly the same time and do them well.One thing will always be better done than the other or they will both be badly done).In all of this, he did not have to fuss over his wages or the quantity of the harvest and how much he was going to get for it.There must have been so much to do that God created Eve not just to keep Adam company but also to help him in his many endeavors.

Also in all of this, he did not have to fuss over his wages or the quantity of the harvest and how much he was going to get for it.There must have been so much to do that God created Eve not just to keep Adam company but also to help him in his many endeavors.

Eve in the garden helped everywhere and anywhere she was called upon to, which is why she had to be submissive. She needed to show up when and where needed not just anywhere and anytime she felt she wanted to. Adam was serious and dynamic so he would not have been giving silly assignments just because he could or making petty complaints. He would not have had time for such tomfoolery.

Adam must have done the heavy lifting, after all, he had been in the garden longer and he was naturally built stronger. However, he was also smart enough to recognise Eve’s skills and temperament. He was a great manager and would not have wanted down time over petty squabbles and such like.

Adam, recognised Eve’s usefulness and importance, because, without her , he would not have been able to achieve much. They, however, would not have had too many arguments about money, because Eve had as much access to stuff as Adam. If for any reason Adam was being a stumbling block, she went straight to Almighty.

Almighty  chatted to the couple often and knew immediately anything was up with them. I guess that happens everywhere not only in the Garden of Eden. Even after they had done the wrong thing, He was not upset with them, they just had to suffer the consequence of their actions.

Even though this is not the topic for today, yes every action has an equal and opposite reaction. You can’t do just everything and anything you want without also getting the consequence, good or bad. We like good consequences but get upset and blame somebody , anybody when the consequence is bad even though in many instances we were warned.

The lions and other animals did what Adam and Eve told them to do. That must have been really cool. The mosquito was in the Garden, and I wonder how that was? I guess Adam and Eve still exercised dominion and made it sit in the corner a few times for being naughty. They definitely did not kill it or mosquitoes would not be here now.

They did not wear anything, how liberating that they did not have to stand in front of a wardrobe full of all sorts of clothes in all styles, shapes and sizes and still not find something they think is nice or appropriate.

Even though Almighty had put gold in the Garden and had probably discussed with Adam and Eve, (sorry I keep saying their names because I don’t want to say Adam and his wife or Eve and her husband, just a pet peeve of mine) good it was I imagine that their chairs in some of their hangouts were gold. They did not stress themselves to knock it into earrings etc. They may have used gold as mirrors but then again, what would they have needed a mirror for. Eve may have needed to use a mirror to put flowers in her hair but I can’t think of what else for.

I am sure there are some people who would rather die than go out without having looked in a mirror. Those people may not be too excited at the prospect of living in Eden. I don’t think you need worry about that. I believe if you have the opportunity to live in Eden, it will be so beautiful you will forget your own beauty (or presumed lack of it).

This is just a tip of the iceberg (talking of ice, they would not have needed any because everything was so cool. The temperature of everything was just right. Everything was just right. No little Korombey starving in any corner of the Garden needing you to send money to dig a well).The beauty and the awesomeness of the Garden cannot be described in a blog. Even having a baby there would have been at a sneeze because labour during childbirth is a consequence of the actions of Adam and Eve.

Okay, this is all very interesting, what has it got to do with anything let alone catapult?After all the Garden of Eden is done. Well, what if I told you that you can live as though you were in the Garden even right now in the midst of this ….. world?

If you have been reading these posts , you will remember I talked about PP in one of them. Again PP is the acronym for Prince of Peace. He is Almighty’s son and he was hung on a cross till He died as an atonement for the actions of Adam and Eve that got them expelled from the Garden. His action of allowing people to hang Him on a cross to die has the consequence of atonement for those who believe this in their hearts and say this belief with their mouths. This act of believing and confessing brings us back to the life in the Garden.

Three days after He died on the cross, PP came alive again and this was possible because He is Almighty’s son and is more powerful than death.This story seems to be the ultimate fantasy novelette but the difference is that it is true.

PP’s death and resurrection results in  peace, joy, abundance, divine health and so much more for those of us who believe. However the snake in the Garden is in the world and even as he played mind games on Eve, he is still around playing mind games. He can make you who believe, think that despite and in spite of, things are going wrong. This can make you despondent.

I want us to remember that even though Adam and Eve had a nice life in the Garden, they still had to work, got cuts and bruises from the work, had to settle any inter -couple disputes with God’s help and so much more.

The fact that you believe and are going through stuff, may just be a mind game. Don’t be taken in. Talk your situation through with Almighty. Remember that in the Garden, Adam and Eve talked many things through with Him. You don’t need anybody to help you talk to him. You can even find out from the Manual what you need to do to get out of the funk. He is the Manual and the Manual is Him.

Many times, not all the time, the problem is that we are so busy discussing our issues with all who have an ear and five minutes to listen instead of taking it to the Almighty or searching out what the Manual says about it.

I am always referring you to the Manual because Almighty who made us sent us to this earth with a manual so we can function properly and be of the best use. He speaks to us through the Manual, which is why I said He is the Manual. When we read a Toyota car manual we know it is Toyota speaking to us. Without a manual where do we know to put the spark plugs ?

If you have never said with your mouth that you believe the PP story of dying on the cross and coming back to life so we could be back in Eden, just say it and ask PP into your heart and watch Eden unfold.

What this has to do with Catapult is that nothing can catapult you further into your destiny than you having a great life in Eden. There are many principles and rules to live by but this is a great one to start with.

October starts in a couple of days. Don’t get anxious if you don’t think you have achieved much because trust me you have. Someone is playing a mind game on you, don’t be taken in. If you think you have done somethings don’t be fooled into settling for mediocrity, even the sky is not the limit.

 

 

 

 

Why does he walk that way….

There are many times we look at some people and we wonder why they walk the way they do. We think “oh he is so arrogant, see the way he walks”, “oh my word, she is walking as though she owns the place”.

I know someone who walks as though she is walking the catwalk. It turns out that she has scoliosis and had a metal rod inserted along her spine that makes her seem she is walking the catwalk. I know another chap, who when you are having a conversation suddenly tilts forward close to you. People usually step back thinking he is trying to be fresh. It turns out that he is deaf in one ear and has to lean his good ear close to the speaker’s mouth in order for him to hear properly.

I know of a young lady who married a geek. However, after a while, the very qualities that endeared him to her started annoying her to the point where she divorced him. A few months later she stumbled on an article about Asperger’s syndrome and she went crazy. This was because she realised that she was reading about her ex-husband. He was not cold and emotionless after all, he had a condition that had gone undetected. She felt bad that if she had known , she would have found out how to manage him.

Many times we assume a thing about a person because of our conclusions of them from our perspective. The truth, however, is that we cannot assume things based on our not having all the facts. The manual for Living says we should not judge a matter, where we have not heard the two side.

When you meet a person, you are meeting their representative not necessarily the real person. Most of us put up a front when we meet people, and even when we have known them for a while it becomes too late to show them who we really are. In some cases even when we want them to know who we really are, we get the impression they are not interested in what we have to offer and we just keep our representative on show. Of course from our discuss today, this may not even be their intention.

This is going to be a short post to just make us understand that there are many reasons why some things are going on or not going on as the case may be ,and it is not always for the reasons we think we know. We make ourselves so ill thinking we know the reason why something is the way it is and yet we may be totally wrong.

Relationships can be very difficult when those in them are not the real people but just the representatives. I feel I am getting into deep water here getting myself entangled with relationships. We are all in relationships and most of us yearn to hear more about relationships and how to make them work better or even work at all.

I think it is always better to think the best of the next person. So let me take married couples. They love each other at certain times and at certain times they don’t. These days whether courtship is long or short, people are getting married for the wrong reasons and the couple don’t know their real spouse, just the representative.They are therefore always having to guess what the other person really means by their speech and their actions. A representative could be anybody depending on what the situation calls for. Imagine even your own response when someone you like comes to your door as opposed to someone you don’t like. The same ‘you’ responds in two distinct and different ways.

So let me take an example of couple AB. Let us say for example choosing what school their first child will attend. The couple both went to mixed schools and even though they have never discussed it, the husband assumes their child will automatically attend a mixed school. The wife does not know what her husband thinks but she feels that choosing a boarding school is her responsibility because she chose the primary school and as such, she will get to choose what type of school and in what area.

She feels she is better suited to do this because she is better educated and indeed comes from a family where education is a big deal and she grew up with all the nuances associated with education and being educated. This is unlike the husband who comes from a family where he is the first to really get a college level education even though he never got high grades just coasted by.

Two years before their son had to go off to boarding school, Wifey had been doing research and had zeroed in on certain boys only schools. Believing that she has done really well, she presents the list to hubby who did not even realize that they needed to start searching for schools that early. He feels his wife is trying upstage him. His first reaction was to think the worst.

Even though he feels like this, he genuinely wants his son to attend a mixed school, like himself and his wife. He does not know this research she is talking about and feels his wife just wants to, again, put him down.

Hubby felt that he went to a mixed school and has done well by many standards. Also, he had watched a random program where a man said he believes he became gay when he was sent off to an all boy’s boarding school.

These two thoughts were his main reasons for wanting a mixed school. His wife had good points also for choosing a single sex school but he was not ready to listen because he felt she was catching him unawares and he had not had time to marshal his points well. He does not even mention his own valid points and continued to harp on the fact that his wife wanted to show him up.

There were many dynamics going on. The “real” hubby wanted a mixed boarding school for two main reasons but he allowed his “representative” to put up a façade that brought strife. The wife also believed the worst, that her husband was just being unreasonable and just wanted to choose whatever was opposite of what she thought.

I hope I have not confused you with this scenario? Why is he walking like that? Why is he thinking that way? Why is he dressed like that? Why does he eat that way? Why has he made that decision? Why does he even look like that? Why does he spend money like that? Why does he not spend money like this? Why is she married to him and vice versa.

There are so many questions like this, that even though we ask, we are not interested in the correct answer. We ask the question and answer it depending on what we see, which is not always what the true picture is.

We will always ask these questions because we are individuals, in many cases, self-absorbed individuals who are convinced we have all the answers. We are not bothered with whether or not our answers are correct. Sometimes we are sincere in our conclusions but we are sincerely wrong.

The manual for living, says we should not judge other people. There are many interpretations of this (just a by the way, always read the manual for yourself, don’t just listen to other people interpret it for you because the person interpreting may be self-absorbed and so is telling you his own perspective which may not be Almighty’s perspective or Almighty’s perspective for you), but I believe one of it is that if you don’t know all the facts, don’t make a decision as to why he is walking that way. Eight times out of ten you will be wrong.

This is not even quoting the well-known adage that you should not judge a man if you have not walked in his shoes. This is because many of the people you judge , you will never walk in their shoes. This post is really for me, and i apologise publicly to all the many people i have wondered wrongly why they are walking like that.

Just a random piece of information. In the USA, the most popular birthdate is the 18th of September. I wonder why…… and I am sure it is not for any of the reasons you think.

Please , please nobody in this post is anybody you think you know, so please don’t conclude that you know couple AB. for once i did not use a true story.

September is half gone. Where does all the time go? Have a great week.

Grammarly says I have five grammer mistakes. I can’t find them. I hope you can’t too.

Upset, Subset, Reset

I went to a pilates class today and at one point the instructor said we should take our balls and before she could say the next instruction one lady exploded complaining loudly about how she did not have a ball or a block.She was so upset but the instructor calmly asked if anyone in the class had an extra ball or block. One was found and given to her. However, her explosion had made her look silly and irrational when the solution was so easy.

I, however, was sure that her explosion was not really about the piece of equipment she did not have. Have you heard the story told about a man who got stopped by the police and given a speeding ticket? In that anger (which he thought was justified because he was speeding in order to achieve a good thing), he told off his next in command when he got to the office who also in that anger told off his secretary, who in that anger ticked off the receptionist, who in turn, in that anger went home and told off her son who in that anger kicked his cat. It was obvious that the first man’s reaction was the reason the receptionist’s son’s cat got kicked. The first man might just as well have gone to the receptionist’s house and kicked her son’s cat. The things that cause Angry reactions are not always as a result of immediate stimulus but could be because of an earlier situation.

It was obvious that the first man’s reaction was the reason the receptionist’s son’s cat got kicked. The first man might just as well have gone to the receptionist’s house and kicked her son’s cat. The things that cause Angry reactions are not always as a result of immediate stimulus but could be because of an earlier situation.

The definition of anger is a strong feeling of displeasure. In researching this piece, I tried to find out what makes people get upset (or should I say angry) and there were very many reasons. Some are due to what others do to us, some are due to what we do to others, some are due to what we do to ourselves. The fact is that almost anything has the capability of making us angry.

The first thing we have to recognise if we are susceptible to anger (whether quickly or not) is that we are susceptible to anger. When we tell ourselves the truth on various issues the battle is won. Our manual for living, says when we know the truth, that truth will set us free.

Many years ago, when I was fairly newly married, I used to attend a meeting of older married women once a week and they would offer advice on various topics. it was a good meeting because it opened my eyes to many truths that truly set me free from a lot of issues that were non-issues but I thought differently.

There was another young lady who attended and used to tell us horror stories for example that her husband was sleeping with the nanny and when she confronted him with the information, that he beat the two of them up stating that women were to be slept with. I was horrified by her tales and found them difficult to believe and wondered if they were true why she would stay in that kind of situation. (By the way, this was one of the less horrific tales she had to tell).

Many months later she came to the meeting to tell of how her husband had now turned full circle to be a near model husband. Of course, everybody wanted to know how it happened. She explained that she sat down and examined her own behaviour and many facts that she never told us for example how she beat him up on many occasions and how she refused him many things on many occasions and so on. When she had recognised that she was not the best person to live with she then decided to change and become much better on many levels and low and behold her husband also did a complete about turn.

(Please don’t get me wrong I am not saying being in an abusive relationship is your fault and things are as simple as you changing your behaviour will make everything fine. I am just recounting a true story).

This kind of reset may not  happen immediately but as Einstein said, to continue to do the same thing and expect a different result is nothing short of madness. So going back to anger we should try to put into sets or subsets the things that trigger our anger. (Of course, not everybody has issues with anger). This is strictly only for those who do. So a few examples of the things that apparently trigger anger are, being given a cold shoulder, poor customer service, miscommunication, being accused wrongly,

So a few examples of the things that apparently trigger anger are, being given a cold shoulder, poor customer service, misinformation, being wrongly accused, bad nutrition, a lack of sleep. To be honest the list is endless.We need to come up with our own lists. What the experts say it that we should then work a way around these triggers or at worst, if we can’t avoid them work out a way such that their effect does not turn into a full blown upset.

The things that cause upsets on their own may not be such a bad thing. The problem is the effect they have on situations and people. Our manual for living advises that we should live in peace with everybody as best as we can. This means there may be situations in which you may not be able to live in peace with someone. The plan should be to heed this advice as best as you can.

This is easier said than done. If this was someone you don’t have to live with, then you can do a dance that gets you out of the line of upsets. However what happens if the person is close to you like a family member or a colleague. I am not a Dear Dolly columnist so I am not here to advise you on how to go about it. What I am here to do is to let you know what may happen to you if you don’t heed this advice of finding a way to get out of the line of upsets.

Discord, which is what constant upset brings, is the worst thing you can do to your health. Many terminally ill people are always being persuaded that what they need is peace because the body is made up of flesh, blood and emotions. In many societies, the emotion is not recognised at all. There are many ailments that the doctors don’t know the cause of but many doctors are beginning to advocate that people pay more attention to their emotions.

There is a quick tip from the maker’s manual. Forgiveness goes a long way in healing emotions.Many people say forgive and forget. Well, that is not in the maker’s manual. Forgiveness is there but not forgetting, although it is fantastic if you can forget. There have been many stories of people who have had physical healing once they could forgive an offending party.Even when you are the offending party, emotional healing comes also when you ask for forgiveness.

Forgiveness starts the process of resetting but permanent reset comes with again doing an analysis on yourself once you know the triggers for anger try to avoid them. If you are the trigger for someone else’s upset then you should find a way not to be a trigger.

A major reset button is having some quiet time with Almighty. The world is so noisy that there is never time to be quiet. In fact, too many of us are afraid of being quiet. So many of the things that cause upsets can actually be avoided if we can just get quiet with Him and read the maker’s manual.

During a quiet time, you may want to ask Almighty, how in your own circumstance you can achieve the advice to follow peace with all men as much as possible. There are many issues you can resolve just by asking Almighty for direction during quiet time with Him. I don’t have the answers and let me assure you not many people have the answers for your issues but Almighty can give you answers to the most difficult questions.

It is time to reset. Being in a permanent mode of upset definitely causes all kinds of ailments.

So to recap, know getting upset is not good for you. Think as to what causes your upsets, isolate these things, ask Almighty for how to reset these upsets and then reset.

Oh! My word, am I a failure?

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I like to start off with definitions. Before I go into definitions I feel I must explain why I have not upgraded as I announced a few blog posts ago.I have two daughters in digital marketing who assured me it was not necessary and I would not get any points for upgrading… so I have not upgraded the blog site.

I am trying to do only what is necessary. We all, however, know that life is not that black and white. Some things may not be necessary but we do them anyway because we can and because it brings somebody joy (not necessarily us).

Back to the definition. Failure is the absence of success. So what is success? The dictionary says it is the victory or triumph of a thing. The good outcome of a thing. This reminds me of a fact about New york crime fighters.

Apparently, when the anti- drug enforcement team are celebrating a huge drug bust, the anti-vice squad have increased work, keeping all the druggies who need a fix and are going crazy committing all kinds of crimes because the cost of drugs has gone up as a result of the drug bust.

This means that success may not be a universal word because what is recognised as success here may be the opposite in other quarters. So, for example, social media is good on some fronts but terrible on some others. Sometimes what was initially celebrated as a success may end up being referred to as a failure in the long run.

I remember when social media brought down a government , many hailed social media. however, the country where this happened has become war torn and the jury is still out as to the success of the role of social media in the preceding anti-government attack via social media.

There is the example of marriages that go south soon after wedding ceremonies. Before the ceremonies, the families think they have been successful but when they go south they think they are failures. However in the cases of domestic violence even upon separation some families think they have been successful because at least their family member came out of the situation alive and not dead or maimed.

I don’t know if you can tell that this was not the way I expected this blog post to go. I was feeling a little down in the dumps because I don’t yet have a break through on one or two of my projects and was going to have a public pity party. Also, it is almost the end of the year and we tend to make all kinds of assessments at this time.

I am now seeing however that success has many shades and sides to it. So I am not a failure depending on which side of the coin you are looking at. I can comfort myself by saying that I at least started a project. Many are locked in a comfort zone with golden handcuffs and they cannot see they are prisoners. (Again if this describes the always smiling lady at the check out in your favourite store , then I hope she stays there because her smile is what people need sometimes).

I may comfort myself by saying the snail speed of the project does not mean failure as a turnaround may just be round the next bend in the road. I may comfort myself by saying that tomorrow morning is another day for me to change things and turn them around.

There was a king called David many years ago who experienced what he and the people at the time called failure. So,  he committed adultery with the wife of one of his soldiers who was fighting at the war front. When the lady got pregnant , King David tried to cover up by giving the soldier an exeat from the war front to visit his wife.

Even though the soldier came home he refused (from a sense of duty and team playing with his fellow soldiers still at the war front) , to lie with his wife thereby defeating the whole purpose of his been brought back home. This meant that the lady could not pass off her pregnancy as her husband’s. To further cover up King David sent the soldier back to the most heated part of the battle and engineered his death.

He married this lady and she had a baby. The baby eventually died and King David become depressed. He wrote a popular verse asking himself why he was so downcast( so unhappy).

A few pointers here. When you are feeling like a failure you need to acknowledge that feeling and ask yourself why you are feeling thas way. When you think deeply ( again, thinking a dying but important art) you will get answers that will help you move forward. Do not get stuck. Try to retrace your steps to see where you went wrong. The mind is powerful and can play games on you. ( This is true, go and read about the right brain and the left brain).

This project or whatever, may not even be for you. You may need to take another path that you can use your same skills and passion for, but just not this particular thing.Be careful not to be too all over the place. You may be trying to do too much. when I was younger , you got points for “multi-tasking” now we know that even though you may do two things at the same time , you are not likely to do them both at the same level of quality. You may also be killing yourself with stress and cortisol.

Is it possible that you are not looking at the coin from the right angle? So to go back to King David, even though his affair was not a good thing in the end because of introspection , he repented and himself and this lady had a child that is now known as the wisest and richest man who ever lived.

Is it possible that you are not patient enough to see the success that is not visible right now but is actually there? Who do you surround yourself with? This project may not mean much to them but mean the world to someone else. You may be trying to serve the wrong people.

I watched an Oprah show once and she said everybody always wants to now how they had done on the show whenever the show ended, even the most influential people. We are most times so concerned with public opinion. Maybe the public does not know much about much or maybe you are not asking the right public.

This sounds to me like I have said this before in an earlier blog post. Please forgive me if you have heard this before.It is not for you but that person reading this  for the first time.

Apparently, the man who invented the contraceptive pill died a pauper, almost unknown and unloved. Over the years there have been mixed feelings about his invention, which has now been proved to help keep cancer at bay in the women who use it.

When King David had asked himself the hard truth of why he was so unhappy, he made a wise decision to always put his hope in Almighty and always praise Him. Why should he bother with this, after all Almighty was there before his predicament of seeming failure.

He had however read Almighty’s words that say if He (Almighty) is on your side , you may trip seven times but you will always get back on your feet. Almighty’s words are truths that you can take to the bank because they are everlasting.

This is not the time to throw in the towel. Go back to the drawing board. The world is waiting for your input. You are extremely important and precious. Don’t waste your time pity partying. It is an expensive venture and not fulfilling in the long run.

To answer the question, no you are not a failure but a success about to happen.