EYES OPEN FOCUS

I went to a spinning class this morning and when it got really intense I was hitting the required RPMs and I closed my eyes thinking I was going flat out.After a while when I opened my eyes I realised that I was hitting only half the required RPM speed.

This got me thinking about how important it is to keep your eyes on the scoreboard so you know exactly how well or how badly you are doing at all times. Many people in their careers, businesses, family life don’t even have a scoreboard let alone keep their eyes on it.

The definition of  a scorecard is a statistical record used to measure achievement or progress towards a particular goal. We all should have goals in every area of our lives. A goal is the object of a person’s ambition or effort; an aim or desired result. Say for example you want to get healthy, your first step is to find out what constitutes good health , then you set out an agenda that will help you achieve the results. This is called setting goals.

Why do you need to set goals? To have focus and goals do this. If you are not focused, everything will distract you. Goals allow you to measure your progress. When you know the route you should take and the results to expect at each point, each milestone by which you have the expected result or not (as the case may be) helps you measure your  progress.

Goals give you mental boundaries so that you keep to the script in order to achieve the goals. Setting goals helps you not to procrastinate. What is procrastination? Procrastination is putting off what you need to do now till  later or maybe never.

Finally, goals motivate you constantly, especially as and when you achieve a step and you are moving to the next step.

However, life is not only about your goals or your path in life. There are many things going on. this is why when you set goals they have to be S.M.A.R.T so that you can keep your eyes on what is going on.

Like my spinning class, if you take your eyes off the dashboard of what controls your goals like the timing and the achieved goals and what needs to be done, you may have slowed down or gone off track completely but you will be fooled by your huffing and puffing that is actually getting you nowhere fast.

Even when your eyes are wide open sometimes you have to be sure you are paying attention to the correct things at the correct time.

Some examples of what you should have a dashboard for, relationships, career,strengths weaknesses, spiritual life, health, nutrition, exercise, the list is endless.

Even when you have a dashboard it is important to know exactly what you need to monitor.A, for example, would be a man who has a family and spends his time making money to look after this family to the detriment of spending time with them. The said family don’t know him and quite frankly he does not know them either. When he is old and grey and expects loving care from the said family, he does not get it the way he thinks he deserves to get it.

Now this is tragic because he worked his behind off for them but the said family feel justified because they do as much for him as they  would do for any stranger they don’t have a real relationship with. He dies a bitter man who feels unloved and reacts to his family negatively which drives them further away and when he dies all are relieved and give him a ‘befitting’ funeral, thinking ‘that’s that about that’.

Also, it could be a high performing and high achieving mum who drives her children crazy by expecting too much from them. She is impossible to live with because of it’s all about high grades. She has the children doing every form of co -curricular activity, music, chess, sports, bible study classes, make-up and the list is endless. Her husband cannot get a word in edgeways because she is on top of it all. (I hope this is not me. I better ask the children if they enjoyed all those extra things they have learnt over the years. I wonder if it is not too late to make amends if I find I was driving them nuts. Oh dear!)

The children are pushed into areas of work they hate and end up with well-paying jobs but they are overweight because they are unhappy with work and want out , but don’t want to upset Mum who made such ‘sacrifices’ to ensure they attained great heights.

Another type is the young girl who has set a goal to be married by the time she is twenty-four years old and is now twenty-two years old , going out (that does not sound right) is now seeing (that sounds even worse), is now being courted(that is definitely not what it is ) anyway you know what I am talking about. She is with this boy who has absolutely no regard for her or her family but has mentioned once or twice that he will marry her because quite frankly she is a great catch (but she does not know this). She ends up marrying him and then, surprise, surprise, he morphs into a monster.

There is the business owner who continues to take on all kinds of customers, with his eyes on the amount of business he is doing and not on the actual amount of actual profit he is making. The truth is you can’t buy a product $1 and sell hundreds of it at half the price and expect to make a profit.

There is also the young , beautiful intelligent lady who sleeps with the boss on numerous occasions because he gives her money to send her younger siblings to school as their Dad abandoned them when their mother died young. She hates herself but she wants to fulfil her promise to her dying mother.

She makes the money and sends them to good schools and they get a good education, but she ends up with a chronic ailment like IBS (irritable bowel syndrome) because of the emotional scars that remain as a result of what she had to do to get the money. She could not enjoy the fruits of her labour.

The workaholic man should have set his goals such that there was some balance in his life. This is to ensure that he developed a relationship with his family not just throwing money at anything that moved.

The hyper mother should have programmed some balance into her life so that the children would also program balance into their lives fully embracing joy, peace and smelling the roses. Not turning into robots going through the motions of life and living, in turn raising robots etc.

The girl who desperately wants to tick marriage off her list should find out her worth, what marriage is all about before she sets her goals and ends up marrying a monster.

The young lady sleeping with her boss because of her siblings , should not have done that because the Almighty who created them does not need help ensuring that they fulfil destiny. When they fulfil destiny she should know it was not through the efforts of big sister. There are many ways, they say to skin a cat, in this case, there are many more palatable ways to raise money for education. Even if they did not get any education…….ask Steve Job.

Continuing with the analogy of my spinning class, each bike has its own dashboard and in many instances, you should be preoccupied with your dashboard and even if you are not, it is extremely difficult, if not impossible to see the dashboard of the person next to you. This really just leaves you guessing the speed they are going at and the gears they are riding at. If you are guessing , I can assure you that that is all it is, a guessing game. You really cannot give a correct evaluation just by looking and guessing.

Some people are sweating profusely but may not be doing very much in terms of speed and resistance. That may just be their metabolism and body type. Some look really serious , again that may just be a look and they may not be doing much. Some look like they are not doing much but they may have their eyes on the dashboard and also have such a good technic such that they are going flat out but looking cool doing it.

All this just says you can only focus on your dashboard and not that of another person.

Eyes open focus should help you move ahead with your goals. What are you focusing on? Are they the right things. Trust you are not letting what is going on around you determine your focus.

Keep your eyes open. I once heard a blind person speak on the gift of blindness, which makes them focus without being easily distracted. That may be so but remember that because they are blind, the blind have learnt to compensate by honing their skills and senses such that they have internal replacement eyes that help them focus.

Are your eyes open, especially to the right things? Keep them open. Keep them on the right things and you will be fulfilled.

Oh, I just had an Isaac Newton experience. I had advertised a training course,  remember I am trying to set up business in London, way outside my comfort zone. My daughter and I designed a really nice flyer advertising a group life coaching session. On the appointed day, only three people turned up, as if that was not bad enough, the venue had double booked the room I was supposed to use and  guess who got booted out.

I am not phased, however. I now know a couple of things about the system in London, England. Rooms get double booked in London also. I am laughing now but on the day I was a little upset but had to get over it and keep it moving. No time to mope.

Have a great week.

 

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